It is usually not customary to move to another job after reaching 50 years of age or more, however, due to changes in social norms and shifts in economic reality, more and more people are coming to the conclusion that later changes in life are necessary or desirable. Regardless of why you decided to change your profession, it is very important to prepare yourself for the realities of the labor market, which have changed significantly since your last job search.
Stage 1 - Awareness
Specialists identify very specific symptoms that the old job is no longer suitable for you. Elmira Davydova lists the main ones:
- you’re constantly bored during work
- you don’t want to read special literature,
- it seems to you that in this area you have already achieved everything possible and there’s nowhere to move further,
- you too often find yourself thinking at work about abstract things,
- your health is deteriorating (in severe cases, neurosis and panic attacks occur),
- you don’t want to go to work to the point where you want to cry.
Of course, these feelings can be caused by severe fatigue. Therefore, before quitting work and going on a free creative voyage, try to experiment - to go on a long-term vacation, creating all the conditions for yourself to have a good rest.
In addition, pay attention to the relationship with colleagues and superiors - perhaps the problem is not in the profession as a whole, but in your place of work. And only if, after resting and changing the team, your condition did not normalize, it is worth moving on to the next stage.
Stage 2 - Deal With Fears
The later comes the realization that it is time to change your life, the more difficult it is to take this step. For an already established professional in adulthood, the transition to the status of a beginner can be extremely painful.
“For a long time I could not decide to return to medicine again 25 years after graduation,” Anna, 49 years old, shares her experience. “I imagined how experienced doctors would look at me with irony, like a girl.” Of course, I was worried that I would not be hired at this age! But all these fears were in vain - the main thing is to really want and achieve your goal. ”
“Any change always implies some uncertainty, which causes alarm,” comments Natalya Tumashkova. - Therefore, to begin with, admit to yourself that you are scared, and try to understand: what are you most afraid of? Only the “named” fear can be correlated with reality, see, “is the devil really terrible”.
When you do NOT need to change a profession
Whatever our dreams, it is always better to look at the situation realistically. Not every business can be mastered in adulthood, and if, having celebrated your 50th birthday, you want to become a professional theater actor or pilot, you should think twice about this decision.
“In the end, it is not necessary to make a profession out of a dream,” says Elmira Davydova. - Life is not limited to work. Fill the activities that you conduct with creative content, and implement your addictions as a hobby. Often the cause of depression and depression is not work, but something else. This can be a personal or age crisis, and then you will need to consult a psychotherapist, not a career counseling specialist. ”
How to cope with the fear of change?
- remember your successful experience of change - how you started something, did something for the first time, how scary at the beginning and what helped you cope with the task,
- collect positive examples from the lives of friends and acquaintances,
- remember your relatives - they had a lot of changes and they dealt with them, look for inspiration by reading biographies of famous and successful people (for example, the book “The Sailor in the Saddle” written by Irving Stone about Jack London’s life),
- remember that the most dangerous thing is “burnout” in the profession. Having reached this stage of aversion to your own work, you can never return to it.
“The only way to cope with your fears is not to chop the branch you are sitting on with an ax,” says Elmira Davydova. - You need to act gradually, drop by drop: go to study courses or do what you want to do with your hobby. Gradually absorb the new environment, make acquaintances, study specialized literature. ”
Indeed, in the process of learning a new business, it may turn out that this is not at all what we need.
Stage 3 - decide on a new profession
For some, this part of the journey may seem the easiest - at last there is an opportunity to realize their childhood dreams, find application for hidden talents, turn their favorite hobby into a matter of life. But for many, the question of "where to go?" Seems an insurmountable obstacle. Then, in search of a new calling, a career counseling specialist can help.
“In 60% of cases, my clients already have a certain topic or area that interests them. Then we should only specify the desire. In the remaining 40%, people will learn something fundamentally new in my office, ”says Elmira Davydova.
The main goal of the vocational guidance technique is to identify which profession is suitable for this particular person. To do this, there are many different polls and tests.
“I’m trying to understand how a person interacts with people, whether he likes to do something with his hands, for which he has inclinations,” continues Elmira Davydova. - You need to find the right object and the right action with this object. Each of us has a corridor of desires and a corridor of opportunities. And in the place where they intersect, a man finds his calling. "
Before you go to a specialist, it is important to do "homework". To do this, ask yourself a few questions: “Where and when did I feel happy, realized?” Take a “tour” of childhood and youthful memories: “Where did I feel the feeling that I want to experience now during work? And why did I once refuse this? ”
“The next step is an inventory of our own resources,” advises Natalya Tumashkova. “All the skills that have accumulated over the years of life can be used as keys to mastering a new business.”
It is necessary to carry out work on the study of the labor market: what can you do, what to apply abilities and experience? Which of your friends is ready to join, or perhaps invite to work?
In addition, today there are many courses and types of additional education that can be combined with the main work.
“I usually recommend people look for something close to the area where they are now,” says Elmira Davydova. - We often do not notice the opportunities that lie in the field of our activity. And only when the resources in the immediate circle are exhausted, you can go into "open space".
Think about it: what would you waste your time for if you no longer had to work for money?
Just for such a case, the psychologist compiled a list of questions, by answering which you can find a new business in your life.
1. If you are bored at work, write five reasons for this feeling. Imagine that you are doing something exactly the opposite. Do you like it? What do you feel? Write five qualities that should be characteristic of your work.
2. Write on the sheet of the profession that you know. Subtract: Subtract all professions that you don’t like. Subtract from the rest those that are not available to you by age. Subtract from the remainder those that are interesting to you, but it’s scary to start. Consider the remainder.
3. Consider what you would do if you inherited a billion euros? Write down your life for one year (twenty important things you would do) after receiving this money. And what would you spend time on if you no longer had to work for money?
4. Write what your parents programmed for you (about money, education, career, people around you).
5. Who are your real teachers (name three people who taught you, albeit toughly, albeit involuntarily, but something in life).
6. Remember what feats you have accomplished (in which you have overcome yourself and circumstances). How has this changed you?
7. Remember your risky actions (physical risk, social, financial), what did it lead to and what did these situations teach you?
8. Who are your parents and parents of parents by profession? What outstanding have they done in their work?
9. Have you ever had something or someone to organize for any business? How did you feel in your capacity as an organizer? Or did you prefer to be an ordinary member?
10. Remember your dreams, which in a symbolic form tell you about your dissatisfaction with life. Or those that show the way.